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Day Three: Your Body is a STORY; Learn Its Language
Bonus Lesson & Action Steps
By: Jaime Mintun &
This past January, I received an email from an Indian woman in South Africa.
She confided a dark secret she’d never told anyone else before: that her entire lower body, from her waist to her thighs, is permanently scarred due to mistreatment and illness as a child growing up in orphanages.
She told me she was so ashamed of these scars… of her body… that she’s never shown her body to another person. She declines any social get togethers that involve bathing suits, shorts, or costumes. She has stayed away from any intimate relationships and now, at the age of 46, she knows that she has prevented herself from living life – all because of this one thing that should seem so small, and yet it’s larger than life.
I tell you this deeply personal story because it bears testimony to the many ways our body shames us.
A Quick Note From Jaime…
Today’s lesson reveals the power of story to determine the health, weight and aging of our body.
Therefore, this lesson shares a few stories.
A little less ‘step by step,’ it’s designed to embed into your subconscious because we cannot tackle our body directly.
It’s all about opening up to our unconscious emotions and material so we can release them – and tell a new story for our body.
So don’t worry if this lesson feels less concrete. The part of you that needs to take action on it will already be doing its job as you read this. 
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It also demonstrates how our body tells the story of our past – the wounds of mistreatment, the markings of illness, the weight of depression or emotional baggage. It speaks loudly of the way we eat, the way we care for ourselves, and it can even tell our secrets.
This is our body’s gift – yet we often see it as a curse.
And we are often most aware of this curse when we realize we’ve aged.
Aging is a woman’s #1 fear, so much so that girls in their 20s and late teens are getting botox and stressing about wrinkles.
The challenge for today’s woman is more than how to battle fat, wrinkles, scars or illness. It’s how to battle all the ways we’ve learned to not love ourselves. It’s how to create more stories for feeling beautiful than we have for not feeling beautiful.
“How Can I Learn to Love My Body?”
When we ask this question, we’re asking how to stop warring with our body. We want to learn how to stop feeling betrayed by our body, or judged because of it.
What few people ever teach us is that a woman’s body is completely manipulated and transformed by her hormones. Disease, aging, weight… it’s all about hormones.
And hormones can be largely affected by our emotions.
You must create more stories for feeling beautiful than you have for not feeling beautiful.
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A woman’s body is manipulated and transformed by her hormones.
And hormones can be largely affected by our emotions.
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This is your body’s secret language. And I’m going to show you an easy way you can begin engaging that secret language so that you can create a new story, and hence a new body that will reflect and tell that story.
Here’s how…
First, Learn Your Body’s Language
Most of us try to leap from some level of disgust, denial or hatred of our body (or a part of it)… to totally loving our body.
It just doesn’t happen that way. We can’t just snap our fingers.
Because when we are upset or ashamed about our body, this doesn’t just mean that our body is fat, or has scars, or is ill.
That may be a fact, yes, however there are plenty of people who are absolutely in love with their big, luscious body… or who have entirely accepted their scars or illness.
When we feel disgust toward our body, what we are feeling is a
disconnect between our model (belief) for what our body should be, should look like, or should do – and the reality our body gives us.
This is why an overweight woman who hates herself can lose all the weight and become a skinny woman who hates herself.
We will often subconsciously regain the weight to justify the hatred – because we never healed what caused the weight in the first place (the holding of emotion that has gotten stuck – such as hatred, shame or self-disgust).
This is why plastic surgery has not been a quick fix for feeling beautiful.
We’ve gone and changed our body, but we never honored what it was telling us in the first place, and so we never got to change the story that created our emotional feeling about our body.
So the first step in healing and loving your body (and yes, to also release weight or reverse age) is to tell yourself the truth – to accept what your body is telling you.
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Telling yourself the truth simply means being honest about what you think and feel about yourself.
I know this can be a dark and dismal place to go, however we can’t release the way we feel until we connect with the emotion, accept it, and really feel it.
Once we’ve done that, we can move to the second step:
Second, Create a New Story… That Leads to a New Truth
I know, the last step really sucked. It’s never fun to face the ugliness we perceive inside of us.
The good news is this second step gets you out of that abyss fast – and for good.
You can’t dig up a rotten plant without getting into the muck and pulling out the roots… and thankfully once that dirty job is finished, getting dirty will have paid off!
Because now you can plant a new seed… the seed of your choice
instead of a seed randomly planted by other people’s judgments or actions.
And as that seed takes root, you’ll watch an entirely new and stunning flower bloom. Your body will transform.
How to Create Your New Story:
Creating a new story means experimenting and playing with your body. You’ll learn to notice feedback rather than judge it.
For example, what is the new truth you want to create?
Let’s say it’s, “I am delightfully beautiful to myself.”
Now think of yourself as a character in a novel. You learned what your starting point looked like in the previous step.
Now you’re going to write the story that can get someone from that starting point to this new truth.
So when I did this exercise, I looked at what beautiful meant to me and how I’d know I felt it.
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Beautiful for me meant I was fit and taking action on my desires – because when my daily actions were not aligned with my desires, I knew some unconscious culprit must be at work.
I learned to see my excess weight as feedback to let me know there was more digging and emotional work to be done.
I learned to approach exercise and eating healthy as ways to stay aligned, rather than ways to punish myself because I wasn’t skinny enough.
As you can see, I didn’t leap to loving myself as I was, or accepting my excess weight. That was too much for me at that moment.
So instead I learned to remove the emotional judgment that ‘my weight makes me ugly.’ Instead I focused on what it said about my unconscious state –the weight of my emotional baggage.
What I learned was that I felt beautiful when I knew I was making progress.
This was valuable to me, because now I had a tool to work with: if I could create multiple ways to see progress, I could create multiple ways to feel beautiful!
And so progress became more than a number on a scale.
It became an increase in strength while weight training… it became how long I could run or do cardio before I got tired… it became how creative I could get with different
ACTION STEPS
Get a piece of paper or digital recorder.
Ask yourself: “What is the truth my body is telling me?”
Don’t over-think this, just write or say whatever comes to you, even if it doesn’t make sense.
This gets us out of our judgment and story so that we can learn what we truly feel and dig up our subconscious beliefs that our body may be reflecting.
Next, ask yourself: “What do I want to tell my body?”
This opens up a dialogue between you and your body and allow you the freedom to speak the truth about how you feel, how you want to feel… what you believe about your body and what you want your body to be.
Again, this may dig up some painful or uncomfortable stuff. That’s okay. It’s okay to be in the mess… let whatever rises to the surface just be – it’s not wrong or right.
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forms of exercise that felt adventurous, or different types of healthy food I could experiment with, and find delicious!
Suddenly I’d pieced together a new story for feeling beautiful. I cultivated a new truth and at the same time activated an inward journey that is still healing deep emotional wounds and helping me forgive and release the past.
And yes, the weight fell away.
Exercise and diet were there too… but because I desired them for their own benefit, not because I was forced toward them so I could lose weight. That key difference switched it all up for me!
So now imagine what exciting, juicy, delightful new story you can create… for all the ways you will feel beautiful and love your body! 