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DAY ONE: BONUS LESSON & ACTION STEPS 1
Copyright © 2011, Jaime Mintun Provided for LoveYourLifeSummit.com
Day One: The One Leap to Happiness
Bonus Lesson & Action Steps
By: Jaime Mintun &
On the path to joy, there is a single step we can take that immediately gets us half-way there.
It is the one leap to happiness.
And don’t worry – when I tell you what it is, you might say, “Not in my lifetime, honey! NO WAY!”
But bear with me here.
I’m going to show you how this one leap to happiness can transform you… and deliver the softest, kindest, most cherished experiences you’ll ever have.
I’ll tell you it was the hardest step I took in my own journey. I fought it tooth and nail until circumstance forced me into it.
I am forever grateful because I discovered that the one thing I was most afraid of was the one thing that set me free.
A Quick Note From Jaime…
Hey! This is the first of your daily Bonus Lessons.
Think of these bonus lessons as Bite Sized Enlightenment. Each one is short and sweet, focused on the day’s single, powerful “takeaway,” and bursting with action steps.
Each lesson will include:
• A single powerful principle
• Why it’s important to your life – what’s in it for you to learn this
• Action steps, mantras or exercises for activating the day’s principle in your life and for living it daily!
Enjoy!
And visit me at www.olila.com!
DAY ONE: BONUS LESSON & ACTION STEPS 2
Copyright © 2011, Jaime Mintun Provided for LoveYourLifeSummit.com
Today’s Powerful Principle: VULNERABILITY
Vulnerability can be a nasty word. It can raise feelings of shame, fear, and disconnection. Not to mention we often stack emotions on top of vulnerability. It may feel like anger, betrayal, anxiety or judgment.
Yet in her groundbreaking research on authentic happiness, and how people come to feel worthy vs. unworthy, researcher Brené Brown, PhD. discovered something very confusing:
The only difference between people who felt worthy, and those who didn’t, was that those who felt worthy were able to be vulnerable.
They believed that what made them vulnerable also made them beautiful. They knew it was necessary and were willing to risk loving, being authentic, and giving of themselves… when there were no guarantees.
Why We Struggle with Vulnerability
When we suffer anything in life, it breaks us open. We feel vulnerable and in those moments, that vulnerability makes us feel ashamed, weak and not good enough.
And so we learn to fear vulnerability. Some of us have never experienced it by choice, and so we’ve
Credit Due:
Much of Brené Brown’s work is threaded through this lesson.
She’s amazing.
www.brenebrown.com
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When you numb vulnerability or any painful emotion…
You also numb joy, gratitude, happiness and love.
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DAY ONE: BONUS LESSON & ACTION STEPS 3
Copyright © 2011, Jaime Mintun Provided for LoveYourLifeSummit.com
never known vulnerability without all the nasty stuff thrown in on top of it.
But here’s the rub:
The only way to stop feeling vulnerable is to numb it. There are two problems with this:
1. We live in a vulnerable world: we are the most in debt, obese, addicted and medicated mob of adults in recorded history.
2. We can’t selectively numb emotion. Do away with any of the nasties like shame or anger, and you have to chuck out the whole bunch.
So when we numb vulnerability, we deny the very nature of our world. When we numb vulnerability we also numb joy. We numb gratitude. We numb happiness and love.
This is why stepping into vulnerability is the great leap toward happiness.
When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we allow ourselves to be truly seen. Vulnerability also attracts others to us, not because we are weak, but because we are courageous enough to be our true selves.
Tip Toeing Toward the Great Leap…
You don’t have to rip your heart wide open and sing your greatest tragedies from the mountain tops, so don’t worry!
Stepping into vulnerability is an exercise in awareness and choice. Choose to feel, choose to come alive. 
ACTION STEPS
1. Write down what vulnerability means to you right now. Complete the sentence: “Vulnerability is…”
Examples from Brené Brown include: not being able to control what happens to kids at school, being sick, putting my work/art out there.
2. Write down what vulnerability feels like. What other emotions come up for you?
Examples include: anger, anxiety, fear, freedom, acceptance, judgment
As you can see there is a dark side to what vulnerability is for us, and a light side. This exercise is simply about getting insight into what vulnerability is for you right now. There are no right or wrong answers and awareness is the first step toward new choices. 